Passing the Torch

" is our attachment to the thoughts we have of who we are that may be the impediment to living life fully, and a stubborn obstacle to any realization of who and what we actually are, and of what is important, and possible." Jon Kabat-Zinn Giving up pride of place as a parent is a process.* This lesson in detachment at first felt wrong, perhaps because I misconstrued the meaning of detachment. I related it to being uncaring rather than to loving objectively. Maybe  women (especially) are socialized to feel responsible for emotional support our entire lives. Our feelings that we are tied by strong and silken threads to our children are authentic. And then many of us accept the challenge to nurture these connections in ways that … [Read More...]

Life, Love and Parenting

Graduation Celebration

Life’s Commencement

With or without pomp and circumstance I have been a part commencements for over 50 years.  Memories of my older sister in her cap and gown are fresh in my mind.  The years of black-and-white photography forever captured her in the somber colors of yesteryear.  There were no school colors for robes in those times.   […]

Our Children

This is a post from 2010 that I am re-posting for graduation time. I wish I had known then what I know now. To my dear children: My friend got my attention yesterday when she said that parents forget that there are no guarantees of long life. Although, at a certain age we comprehend our […]


My Mother, My Life

Dear Mother. I wish I had understood you better in our years together. I’ve had a lot of time now to come to see you from my own perspective as a mother and as a daughter. A mother who is a bundle of unresolved complexities is never easy. Our culture glorifies that woman who is […]

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Welcome to My World of Letters

Many of you are looking for a specific letter for ideas to help you write to someone you love. You are welcome to take what you need from this site for your personal use. But here’s the deal. You can do it yourself.  Go to the top of the main blog page or click here […]

…on Being Your Mother

Dear Child of Mine, Life changed in the moment you were born.  My thoughts and feelings swirled around the room.  Like a life force they poured from my heart and head, swooshing about and resting on you as I held you in my arms.   Instantly you were wrapped in a warm blanket of love and […]

…on Worrying about Your Children

Worry does not empty tomorrow of its sorrow. It empties today of its strength. Corrie Ten Boom Dear Parent, Don’t waste your precious moments with your son. Stop a moment and look at him. Treasure him. Be grateful. It’s difficult growing up in a “successful” family. Everywhere one looks one sees certainty, solidity and pretty […]

21 Years and Counting

It’s your birthday, dear grandson. You are 21 years old. Incredible! How did it happen so fast? The round-faced sunny boy has transformed. Your handsome face is chiseled. Your strength is visible in your well-formed muscles and your solid presence. One needn’t know your age to recognize that you are a man. I have never […]

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The Price of Freedom, by Sharon Abbott Furze www.( who blogs at

The Heart of a Soldier

To Every Soldier, Because my life has not included personal experience with war, I can’t pretend to comprehend the effects. Still, I am grateful. My gratitude perches precariously upon a constant ache for the men and women who have done battle and whose deepest wounds may not be visible to the world. The physical losses, […]


Birthdays and Memorials

Re-posted from 2013. Today I am sharing my birthday with a remembrance of U. S. soldiers who have served my country through the years. I was born at the beginning of World War II and I have no memory of that war. At one period of my life I read everything I could find about […]

Along the Way

“Instead of hoping that others recognize their ongoing value, elders in my tradition honor their own potency, sacredness, rights and responsibilities.” Connie Buffalo, Member of the Chippewa Tribe When I was notified of the Wisdom Summit with its great treasury of information being offered by minds and hearts – some of whose ideas I admire […]

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