Me and My Shadow

I normally look on the bright bright side. That’s not to say that I have a sunny disposition - I don’t think anyone would view me that way. I’m too busy peeking around corners to see what’s coming and trying to prepare. But usually I am optimistic. It’s been harder in the last year. Part of this is acknowledging pain when it comes. My shadow work in the last months has taught me to try to face my sadness rather than always looking at the upside. So, I don’t know if I am looking through a different lens or if I have stubbed my toe one too many times upon the series of unfortunate events that have occurred during COVID-19. I’ve always looked my life as a blessing. Mostly irritations rather than problems. Not by any stretch of the …

The Women I Like

Many people will walk in and out of your life, but only true friends will leave footprints in your heart. Eleanor Roosevelt I have re-published posts before, but I haven’t always added to them. Somehow, though, I felt some invitations were necessary. It’s been many years since I have had my “Women I Like” party.  […]

A River of Grief

“Nothing that grieves us can be called little: by the eternal laws of proportion a child’s loss of a doll and a king’s loss of a crown are events of the same size.”        Mark Twain “No one ever told me that grief felt so like fear.”                                                                       C.S. Lewis, A Grief Observed Sorrow is masterful at […]

Tragedy Lives On

My heart is still breaking. Perhaps not breaking, but crumbling. Since our friends’ failed death pact two months ago, not a day goes by that I don’t think of her and wish I could tell her something. I have a question I want to ask him. Then I realize again that she is gone and […]

My journey into the New Year

“When I let go of what I am, I become what I might be.”   Lao Tzu Let this wonderful thought take me into the New Year. Our culture teaches us that what we do is important.  Labels matter.  Our position, our education, our accomplishments are what jockey us into position for a rewarding life.  After […]

Being Enough

“If my aim is to prove that I am ‘enough’ the project goes on to infinity – because the battle was already lost on the day I conceded the issue was debatable.” Nathaniel Branden in The Six Pillars of Self-Esteem. Of course, I haven’t finished the book because it got me thinking… about the difference between […]

Working My Way Through

It’s easy for me to delude myself.  After all, I don’t know what I don’t know.  And I don’t recognize my behavior when it is so common to me that it strikes no strident note. Most of my less-than-admirable behaviors just work themselves through my hours and days without my notice.  They form themselves into […]

Welcome to My World of Letters

Many of you are looking for a specific letter for ideas to help you write to someone you love. You are welcome to take what you need from this site for your personal use. But here’s the deal. You can do it yourself.  Go to the top of the main blog page or click here […]

Traveling with Grief

I’m duplicating this from my Mexican blog. I posted this three years ago today. I have learned through the years that bad news has a greater dimension when I receive it in a foreign country. I am a long way from home. There are people who “love” me – but do they really? Or are […]

Be Who You Are

“Love takes off masks that we fear we cannot live without and know we cannot live within.”James Baldwin Dear One, I hear you. And I see that you want to tuck into your place of safety and pull the comfy walls around you. Having a nest is a good thing. Having a hidey-hole can be […]

The Women I Like

Many people will walk in and out of your life, but only true friends will leave footprints in your heart. Eleanor Roosevelt I have re-published posts before, but I haven’t always added to them. Somehow, though, I felt some invitations were necessary. It’s been many years since I have had my “Women I Like” party.  […]

Easter

Repost from April, 2015 Easter holds so many memories for me. But I’ve written about those before… And Easter brings up so many thoughts about faith. But I’ve written about those before, too… Nowadays I resist attending most church services. Maybe it’s the itsy-bitsy shame from my upbringing about being a twice-a-year Christian. (I have […]

Traveling with Grief

I’m duplicating this from my Mexican blog. I posted this three years ago today. I have learned through the years that bad news has a greater dimension when I receive it in a foreign country. I am a long way from home. There are people who “love” me – but do they really? Or are […]