Traveling with Grief

I'm duplicating this from my Mexican blog. I posted this three years ago today. I have learned through the years that bad news has a greater dimension when I receive it in a foreign country. I am a long way from home. There are people who "love" me - but do they really? Or are they situational friends? A few days ago I received a shocking call. A close friend died. I had visited her before leaving and thought she was on the mend. My immediate response was shock. I called my husband to talk with him. While we were on the phone(I was crying) one of my little lurkers rode up on his bicycle. Distractedly I patted his head and he rode away. I was walking back to my little casita when the boys reappeared. "Que pasa?", they …

Traveling with Grief

I’m duplicating this from my Mexican blog. I posted this three years ago today. I have learned through the years that bad news has a greater dimension when I receive it in a foreign country. I am a long way from home. There are people who “love” me – but do they really? Or are […]

Death and Tragedy

Death is a reality at our age. Not only are we facing it ourselves, but we lose friends and family regularly. Even though we are expecting it, it can be a shock, But I think of us as prepared. A niece has been close to death this week. Life supports were removed because of a […]

Happy Holidays

It’s Christmas here and I am grateful. For everyone in my life. For all of the privileges in my life. For this ability to speak to you on this day. Merry Christmas to my beloved family and friends. xxoo Re-posted from 2012

My journey into the New Year

“When I let go of what I am, I become what I might be.”   Lao Tzu Let this wonderful thought take me into the New Year. Our culture teaches us that what we do is important.  Labels matter.  Our position, our education, our accomplishments are what jockey us into position for a rewarding life.  After […]

Being Enough

“If my aim is to prove that I am ‘enough’ the project goes on to infinity – because the battle was already lost on the day I conceded the issue was debatable.” Nathaniel Branden in The Six Pillars of Self-Esteem. Of course, I haven’t finished the book because it got me thinking… about the difference between […]

Working My Way Through

It’s easy for me to delude myself.  After all, I don’t know what I don’t know.  And I don’t recognize my behavior when it is so common to me that it strikes no strident note. Most of my less-than-admirable behaviors just work themselves through my hours and days without my notice.  They form themselves into […]

Traveling with Grief

I’m duplicating this from my Mexican blog. I posted this three years ago today. I have learned through the years that bad news has a greater dimension when I receive it in a foreign country. I am a long way from home. There are people who “love” me – but do they really? Or are […]

Welcome to My World of Letters

Many of you are looking for a specific letter for ideas to help you write to someone you love. You are welcome to take what you need from this site for your personal use. But here’s the deal. You can do it yourself.  Go to the top of the main blog page or click here […]

Be Who You Are

“Love takes off masks that we fear we cannot live without and know we cannot live within.”James Baldwin Dear One, I hear you. And I see that you want to tuck into your place of safety and pull the comfy walls around you. Having a nest is a good thing. Having a hidey-hole can be […]

Traveling with Grief

I’m duplicating this from my Mexican blog. I posted this three years ago today. I have learned through the years that bad news has a greater dimension when I receive it in a foreign country. I am a long way from home. There are people who “love” me – but do they really? Or are […]

A New Year

It has been a difficult road this year, but still I look at every day as a new opportunity.Michael Chang Happy new year is the standard phrase. Prospero Ano y Felicidad. Bonne année People are hoping that next year is better. And I understand it. 2020has been a year of death and destruction by fire […]

50 Years and Counting

REPOSTED FROM 2009 This morning I am sitting on the deck of a sailing ship looking across a turquoise sea to a Caribbean Island. The scene has changed from 1959. Then it was an emotional and spiritual crisis for a Catholic to marry a Protestant. Then it wasn’t common, but neither was it unheard of, […]