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Date Night Disclosure

Comparison is the thief of joy. Theodore Roosevelt Even at the ages of 77 and 80 my husband and I try to have a date night. I love music, we love wine, and he loves me - so we do what I want. I find live music at a winery on a Friday evening, we party all night, and are home by 7pm. Perfect! But what about isolation, social distancing, and self-quarantine? We definitely fall into the high-risk category for the possible worldwide pandemic of Coronavirus (Covid-19). So last Friday night we sat in front of the fireplace, listened to music from Spotify and opened a bottle of local wine. Who knew there were secrets to tell at this late date? In order not to catastrophize or perseverate on family issues, we decided to play a game that we bring … [Read More...]

LIFE, LOVE AND PARENTING

To My Valentine

To My Valentine, I have so many valentines now. But as I am thinking about my children and my grandchildren, my mind turns to you. You are the one, after all. You are the one who has always loved me. All of those years ago I didn’t understand how such a stud decided to pay […]

Christmas means to me…

It’s really no wonder that I have some ambivalent feelings around Christmas. I grew up without a secular tradition. Until I was a teenager, all of my Christmas memories were centered around church services. We sang a lot of hymns about the birth of Jesus but I never heard “Here Comes Santa Claus” except on […]

Wait – Think – Live

I wish I could show you…the astonishing light of your own being. Hafiz I am writing to you – my children and grandchildren – but also children and grandchildren everywhere. Life is fragile and ends quickly and often capriciously. Two people we know and love have died by suicide recently. One, a young man in […]

Letting Go

Who hurt you, once, so far beyond repair that you would meet each overture with curling lip? While we, who knew you well, your friends, (the focus of your scorn) could see your courage in the face of fear, your wit, and thoughtfulness, and will remember you with something close to love. Marylyn Plessner Maybe […]

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MY LIFE CLASS

Another Teacher

“Everything that irritates us about others can lead us to an understanding of ourselves”. Carl Jung I have a teacher who is not one of my normal gurus. She is a person I have met in many guises in many countries.  This is a good opportunity to learn the lessons without signing up for a […]

December Thoughts

I generally don’t live in the past. I fast-forward and visualize the future. Even my precious memories are vague. I hear friends who can relay a moment-by-moment saga of their children’s lives and I feel a bit guilty. sSometimes I wonder if I was ever present in those moments. But I have moments of nostalgia. […]

Another Lesson in Acceptance

THE GUEST HOUSE This being human is a guest house. Every morning a new arrival. A joy, a depression, a meanness, some momentary awareness comes As an unexpected visitor. Welcome and entertain them all! Even if they’re a crowd of sorrows, who violently sweep your house empty of its furniture, still treat each guest honorably. […]

Let Go…Let Go

I am impressed once more with the power of letting go. I forget that I have that power.That when I release myself from frustration and stop struggling. The struggle ends. Sometimes it makes life so easy. Then I wonder why I cared so much. I’m puzzled by my tenacity in wasting precious moments of my […]

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FORM LETTERS

Welcome to My World of Letters

Many of you are looking for a specific letter for ideas to help you write to someone you love. You are welcome to take what you need from this site for your personal use. But here’s the deal. You can do it yourself.  Go to the top of the main blog page or click here […]

Family Secrets

I don’t believe in family secrets.  They cause undue stress, give nasty surprises and keep us from learning lessons that we could all share. Yet it’s difficult to know how deal with when they are brought into the light.  Do they require action?  Are we to be involved?  If there are differences, are we to […]

…on Christmas and You

(NOTE:  Do you want to write to your new love? Your aging husband?  Your child?  Your Friend?   I hope this helps you find the words you need for the person you love.  This is one of a series of requested letters  posted under “Form Letters” for those of you who would like an idea or […]

…on Being a Stepparent

NOTE.  This is one of a series of requested letters that is posted under “Form Letters” for those of you who would like an idea or a template for a letter of your own. Dear Son-to-Be: I’ve thought a lot about your upcoming marriage into our family.  I know that it isn’t my responsibility to […]

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YOU MIGHT WANT TO KNOW…

Pleasant

My friend and I are trying to spur each other into writing more often. We have a list of concepts that are meant to give us a jump start. Pleasant? I know what I think of as pleasant. Cozy. Comforting. Carefree. But, I had to look up the definition. pleas·ant /ˈplez(ə)nt/ adjective 1. giving a […]

Happy New Year/Decade

“Don’t live the same year 75 times and call it a life.” — Robin Sharma When I sent my grandchildren a New Year’s message this morning my oldest grandson came back with his shattering reminder – “it’s a new decade.” What??? Well, c’mon, I have lived through a lot of new decades. But this is […]

Christmas Gratitude

I have great gratitude for my family at Christmas. In addition to the normal blessings of health and love and affection I am so grateful for each and everyone of my grandchildren‘s generosity. A long time ago I began the tradition of offering each grandchild a choice in the decision of what charity will be […]

Christmas means to me…

It’s really no wonder that I have some ambivalent feelings around Christmas. I grew up without a secular tradition. Until I was a teenager, all of my Christmas memories were centered around church services. We sang a lot of hymns about the birth of Jesus but I never heard “Here Comes Santa Claus” except on […]

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