Those who died in Charleston, June 2015

Living for Peace

Mostly, I have been silent  on the tragedy in Charleston. I haven't known what to say. I want to stand for what I believe. I speak about  understanding the reality of terrorism. I speak up about the travesty of inequality and the inequities in our system. But I don't want to be mad at every killer. I don't want to blame all police or believe that all white people are crazed by their own fear and prejudice. And my imagination cannot take me to that place where black people abide - in the constant uncertainty for themselves and their children. Yes, in the world we live in, we all know uncertainty. But years of hatred and invalidation are not heaped upon our uncertainty. My sorrow is deep and yet I work to keep my heart soft. I … [Read More...]

Life, Love and Parenting

A Generation Between

A blast from the past (former post) that is still true. Dear Children, It comes down to the difference between parenting and grandparenting. Without blaming myself as a parent, I understand the difficulties of parenting: showing love versus giving guidance; giving direction without giving orders; teaching values without imposing ideology. When you were born I […]

I Can’t Protect You

This post is brought forward from the past. Dear Son, When the light goes off and my head rests on my pillow, I pray for the health and safety of my children and grandchildren. If I am wakeful I say each name.  For now you are on the top of my list every night.  As […]

Parenting is Forever

I sometimes bring this letter forward from my archives because there seem to be a lot of people searching for letters to write to their own children.  Originally post March 29, 2011. Dear Child of Mine, Many of my thoughts of parenting represent hope for a better yesterday. I was inspired by watching Maya Angelou […]

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Welcome to My World of Letters

Many of you are looking for a specific letter for ideas to help you write to someone you love. You are welcome to take what you need from this site for your personal use. But here’s the deal. You can do it yourself.  Go to the top of the main blog page or click here […]

Loving…no matter what…

I sometimes bring this letter forward from my archives because there seem to be a lot of people searching for letters to write to their own children. Dear Children, I am think of unconditional love today.  Of what it really means. I love you.  Without qualifying conditions. You needn’t earn my love.  It is a […]

Happy 21

This is a post brought forward from the past because so many of you are looking for those birthday letters. Dear Granddaughter, The Facebook posts and emails are flying. It is a celebration of you. Our son can’t believe he is the father of a 21-year-old. Your mother is remembering driving you home from the […]

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You Might Want to Know…

There are all sorts of love.

On my way to a nephew’s wedding celebration today. Thinking of these connections I am reprinting this post from 2009. “And did you get what you wanted from this life, even so? I did. And what did you want? To call myself beloved, to feel myself beloved on the earth.”  Raymond Carver I had a […]


Today is the anniversary of the death of one of my sisters. I am thinking of her and am reprinting this post. Missing her doesn’t change. “Well…here I am again…faced with losing a sister. After the last 24 hours I can only wish that death and dying were more like the movies:  sweet and loving […]

Denial, Acceptance, Hope, Faith…What????

“…denial is not a refusal to see the truth, it is the inability to see the truth.” Unknown The big questions come up when my routine life is rattled by unexpected events: illness, death, and even great blessings. How did I get to this place? What did I do to arrive? What should I be […]

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