Sometimes friends are not forever.

Dear Granddaughter.

I am so sure that you are fine.  Fine as in okay.  Fine as in cool.  Fine as in beautiful. And fine as in a truly good person.

If I hadn’t just spent so much time with you I might not be so sure.  But this I know in my heart…

You have much to offer.  You don’t take more than your share.  You are true, loyal and empathetic to those around you.

Please don’t be discouraged by the perfidy or thoughtlessness of your situational friends.  Right now that’s what they are.  It is a group of people with whom you have enough in common that you can enjoy each other when you are so far away from your comfort zone.  They are intelligent, fun and entertaining.

That may not be enough to carry them into a long-term friendship.  You will have to wait and see for that.

Maya Angelou says, “When people tell you who they are, believe them.”  This is a good litmus test for life-long friends.  Are they the people you want to carry with you into your “real” life at home.  Do they open you to new challenges and great new possibilities or will they have trouble melding into your life, your family and your true friends.

It is hard to leave new friendships that have been a lifeline for a period of time.  It is ever harder when they end in some horrid way before their time.  But remember, it doesn’t necessarily mean that you have done something wrong.  It certainly doesn’t mean there is something wrong with you.   It is the nature of situational friends.

It’s like the bosom buddies from a summer camp that you thought would last forever; your kindred spirit in middle school who didn’t last, the summer romance that felt like true love, the shipboard crush, the stranger on a train…the list goes on, but the friendships often don’t.

I am sorry if your friends have not proven to be great people.  I hope that some will stand by you in your situation and support you in your distress.  That will help you tolerate the rest of your stay.  If not, you are strong enough to make it.  You will come home to family, school and true friends.

You are fine!



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