NOTE. This is one of a series of requested letters that will be posted under “Form Letters” for those of you who would like an idea or a template for a letter of your own.)
It’s hard for me to comprehend how things went so terribly wrong.
I am confused about your behavior. I have tried to be supportive of you all of your life, and in particular since you are a single father. Even though it was difficult for both of us to adjust to living together again, it was worth it to help you out and to spend so much time with my grandson.
This is a situation fraught with difficulties, but I’m not sure what is going on that would cause you to be disrespectful, hurtful and violent to me in front of your son. I love you and I am worried for both of you.
Yet I realize that there is nothing for me to do at this point. I can’t tolerate your abuse. I don’t think that is good for any of us. And you may not want my help right now. Since you don’t accept my phone calls, I must assume that you don’t.
As always, I want what is best for you. You are my son and I love you as always. And I don’t want a disagreement between us to keep me from a relationship with my grandson. We can work out our differences without causing pain for him.
I am having a difficult time reconciling all that has happened between us. Perhaps it is best that we don’t talk for a while. But I would appreciate it if you would make some arrangements for me to visit with your son.