NOTE. This is one of a series of requested letters that will be posted under “Form Letters” for those of you who are looking for an idea or a template for a letter of your own.
I’ve never considered myself immortal, but until my illness I hadn’t really thought of dying and leaving you behind. You have been the treasure of my heart for my entire adult life. I cannot imagine having been without you.
We have had so many joys together and have shared so much. For you they may just be memories, but for me, your activities were joys that filled my life. Your many talents have taken my breath away from the time you were a beautiful little girl until today.
One of my wonderful memories is planning your wedding with you. Wasn’t it amazing that together we could do so much in so little time and have it work out so beautifully? Maybe not so amazing. We have always been a great team!
I admire you greatly, dear daughter. If you were a stranger, I would immediately want to know you better. You have been a good wife and I’m lucky to have you as the parent of my grandchild. This has given me so much joy. How could my life have been better?
Because you have a child there is much that you understand without me saying it. You know that I am forever your mother. You know that what you feel, I feel. What has hurt you has hurt me, too.
And a daughter is such joy! It isn’t just a mother/child bond…it is sharing the unique experience of being women in this world, its pleasures and its sorrows. We have walked together through our lives. And when I have been apart from you, you have always been in my heart and on my mind.
When I go, don’t grieve too much, dear daughter. Don’t regret. Don’t feel as if you should have done anything differently. You have given me your love. That has meant everything to me. And you will always have mine.