I wrote this many years ago…and it is still so true. Dear Children, It comes down to the difference between parenting and grandparenting. Without blaming myself as a parent, I understand the difficulties of parenting: showing love versus giving guidance; giving direction without giving orders; teaching values without imposing ideology. When you were born […]
Time for a Change!
September 3, 2019 by 4 Comments
“How we spend our days is, of course, how we spend our lives.” Annie Dillard Periodically, through my life I have found myself restless and discontented to the point that I pay attention. I do this every few years – Reevaluate my life because I suddenly feel as if I am living by rote. […]
Muy Raro…y ahora se fue!
June 30, 2019 by 2 Comments
Herb was a huge part of my life. His death closes the door to the past but has opened the floodgate for many memories to rush in. I visited him a few times in his last weeks. Beneath the memory loss and extreme illness he was himself. He had a spark that I remembered. I […]
Life is Good – Not a Struggle
June 18, 2019 by 4 Comments
This is my year to be hung up on my stroke, I guess. It’s my second year and reality has definitely set in. One morning while getting ready for water aerobics I pondered the struggle of get to the YMCA and into the pool. Then I thought, “Well, $*!@, it’s not ever really going to […]
On the Water Again
May 27, 2019 by 2 Comments
Rowing was the coolest and most unlikely thing I did in my 60’s. I surprised myself by loving it. To the chagrin of my coach i was often swept away by the stillness of the lake in the early mornings or the beauty of the mist shrouding the mountains. My focus didn’t make me a […]
A Blessing of Mothers
May 12, 2019 by 5 Comments
Reprinted from May 7, 2016 I’m the lucky one. I have had mothering and mentoring from at least four wonderful women. They mutually excelled one another in the gifts they have given me. When I read my past post about Mother, I feel as if I have said most of it. I learned to appreciate […]
Remembering Mary on Her Birthday
May 11, 2019 by Leave a Comment
When going through old albums in order to clear out my house, I stopped cold. I have sorted the treasures of friends and relatives after their passing. I don’t begrudge the time spent, it was a way of knowing more about their lives – touching the things that were important to them. Although I would […]
Compassion, again…
May 10, 2019 by 2 Comments
Compassion is not a relationship between the healer and the wounded. It’s a relationship between equals. Only when we know our own darkness well can we be present with the darkness of others. Compassion becomes real when we recognize our shared humanity.”― Pema Chödrön, The Places That Scare You: A Guide to Fearlessness in Difficult […]
Young People Who Lost Their Lives (A partial list)
March 13, 2019 by Leave a Comment
Emantic “EJ” Fitzgerald Bradford Jr., 21; Jemel Roberson, 26; DeAndre Ballard, 23; Botham Shem Jean, 26; Antwon Rose Jr., 17; Ramarley Graham, 18; Trayvon Martin, 17; Wendell Allen, 20; Kendrec McDade, 19; Jonathan Ferrell, 24; Jordan Baker, 26; Victor White lll, 22; John Crawford lll, 22; Michael Brown, 18; Ezell Ford, […]
More Preparation
March 9, 2019 by 1 Comment
Dear kids, I have to write another preamble. I have lived my life in such oblivion. I acknowledge that I have been a lifelong learner and have studied many disciplines and followed many paths. I am a deep thinker (or at least a constant one) but not necessarily a thorough investigator. I am a big […]
