Family Secrets

I don’t believe in family secrets.  They cause undue stress, give nasty surprises and keep us from learning lessons that we could all share. Yet it’s difficult to know how deal with when they are brought into the light.  Do they require action?  Are we to be involved?  If there are differences, are we to […]

…on Being a Stepparent

NOTE.  This is one of a series of requested letters that is posted under “Form Letters” for those of you who would like an idea or a template for a letter of your own. Dear Son-to-Be: I’ve thought a lot about your upcoming marriage into our family.  I know that it isn’t my responsibility to […]

…on Losing My Relationship with My Daughter

NOTE.  This is one of a series of requested letters that will be posted under “Form Letters” for those of you who would like an idea or a template for a letter of your own.) Dear Daughter. Please tell me what I have done.  You say there is nothing and I know it isn’t true. […]

…on Being Abused

I recently witnessed a troubling exchange in the grocery store.  I didn’t handle it well.  And I don’t know how I could have done it better.  It was troubling. Dear Abused: I hope I didn’t make your situation worse.  It was such a shock to hear a man’s voice yelling, “SHUT UP!” so near me.  […]

…on Taking a Breather from Difficulties

NOTE.  This is one of a series of requested letters that will be posted under “Form Letters” for those of you who would like an idea or a template for a letter of your own.) Dear Son, It’s hard for me to comprehend how things went so terribly wrong. I am  confused about your behavior.  […]

…on Meeting Halfway

(NOTE.  This is one of a series of requested letters that will be posted under “Form Letters” for those of you who would like an idea or a template for a letter of your own.) Dear Daughter, I am wondering what has gone wrong between us.  We see things very differently.  I feel as if […]

…on Disagreeing with a Grown Child

(NOTE:  This is a re-post due to popular demand. This is one of a series of requested letters that will be posted under “Form Letters” for those of you who would like an idea or a template for a letter of your own. ) Dear Son/Daughter: This is a strange subject for us, isn’t it.  […]

…on working together for the children

(NOTE:  This is one of a series of requested letters that will be posted under “Form Letters”,  for those of you who would like an idea or a template for a letter of your own.) Dear Ex: I need your help.  I am hopeful that we can cooperate and continue to do what is best […]

…on dealing with grandchildren in a divorce

(NOTE:  This is one of a series of letters posted under “Form Letters” for those of you who would like an idea or a beginning for a letter of your own.) Dear Son, I’m not sure why you were so upset over me spending time with your ex-wife when I made the transfer with your […]

…on Reaching Toward Family Harmony

NOTE.  This is one of a series of requested letters that will be posted under “Form Letters” for those of you who would like an idea or a template for a letter of your own. “A family in harmony will prosper in everything” Chinese Proverb …and a family at odds radiates pain in widening circles. […]