My Mother’s Birthday

Dear Children, Here it is – Mom’s birthday again. Will I ever get better at expressing my feelings about my mother?  I know that the longer I live, the more I understand both her and myself. Observing her difficulty in making connection is an object lesson in love. In the years when you were under […]

Living Through Death

Most of us can only look at death from the outside. We struggle to understand and want to be in it for the people we love, but their’s is a solitary path. My friend is facing the loss of her brother to advancing cancer. She wants to be there for him and craves the close […]

Happy New Year

It wasn’t so long ago that I took a happy new year’s greeting at face value. Of course, the new year would be happy. The worldfFelt totally within my control and I expected good things. Well, I still expect good things. But it has come quite emphatically to my attention in the past year that […]

Live Your Life

Montana Hiker Dies of Suicide Shortly After His Girlfriend Perishes in Avalanche       My love, I’m in a quandary as a grandmother. Above all, I want you to live.  I want you to live fully and joyfully. From the perspective of age, I want to remind you how important your life is – no […]

Tell me about your travels…

Hi Over There… I hear about your travels. I see an Instagram or a FB post now and then. But how are you REALLY doing? And what? And where? Privileged young people have been heading across The Pond for their growing up adventures for as long there has been passage, I suppose. I didn’t make […]

Graduation – an End and a Beginning

Dear Grandson, Happy Graduation! Onward and Upward on your new path! Look to the future! New people, new experiences! Yeah, yeah, yeah… I know. The sadness of leaving high school isn’t discussed much, is it? No one talks about what you are leaving behind. Graduating is a happy experience. Your achievements are celebrated, accolades are […]

To Mothers

To all the Mothers who have loved and lost… I am always thinking of  you on Mother’s Day and hoping that you can live in beautiful memories as much as in the depths of sorrow. Because you are still a mother. You are the love that is steady. Your child cannot be estranged and lose […]

Easter Again…

Dear Children and Grandchildren, (and friends), Yesterday I realized the this is Easter Sunday. Such memories! In my life holidays have morphed into unrecognizable days that have little to do with the past. I remember Easters that had great spiritual or familial meaning. I’ve written about some of them. I know people who maintain family […]

Reading and Having and Holding

Change is the essence of life. Be willing to surrender what you are for what you could become. ~ Rumi Dear Grandson, You are looking at change. I admire your bravery and am stunned by your ability to wait. I talked about sending you a list of books for this time of renewal and restoration, […]

Approval

I’ve written about disapproval. Is approval the offset, then? Both the word and the concept are loaded and become interesting when in the hands of those we love. Approval: blessing: the formal act of approving; “he gave the project his blessing”; “his decision merited the approval of any sensible person” a feeling of liking something […]