Happy Holidays

It’s Christmas here and I am grateful. For everyone in my life. For all of the privileges in my life. For this ability to speak to you on this day. Merry Christmas to my beloved family and friends. xxoo Re-posted from 2012

Are you out there? Anybody? Anybody?

“Find out who you are and do it on purpose.” ― Dolly Parton I am feeling an urgency. It’s not surprising since all the women in my family have been opinionated. As death seems more imminent I realize I may not have shared each and every opinion or insight on each and every subject that […]

What will I do? What will you do?

“Why was Jacob Blake seen as a deadly threat for a theoretical gun, while this gunman, who had already shot people, was arrested the next day and treated like a human being whose life matters?” More on the police shooting of Jacob Blake & protests in Kenosha: pic.twitter.com/cQAU5fkDsg — The Daily Show (@TheDailyShow) August 27, […]

Improving on Yesterday

“I did then what I knew how to do. Now that I know better, I do better.” Maya Angelou Dearest Child, Maya’s  words wash over me in a healing shower of relief. I have been careful in my parenting not to fall back on the phrase, “I did my best”, because I think it is […]

Why the Enneagram, Mom?

Dear Family, I know. I’m a broken record. Believe me – I recognize it as part of my personality and I am trying to curb my impulse to evangelize about what I know to be helpful for me. But, since this is my blog and I can write whatever I want, I am choosing to […]

Father’s Day is Here Again

To the Family Fathers… I come from a tradition of involved fathers. It was my dad who sat huddled in a chair by my bed when my sore throats or earaches kept me awake at night. (Read more here.) It was my husband who went to the baby who cried in the night. As each […]

Graduation 2020 – Leap!

  Congratulations, my dear Grandson. I think often about our conversation in January when you expressed your feelings about your coming graduation. Comme ci, comme ça. You were glad to have everyone gathering in celebration, but the event itself dd not seem important to you. Interesting how life turns us around, things that seem not […]

Your Day is Here!

Congratulations, Years of hard work and you come away with the grand prize –  a degree and a job! Kudos to you! And even though you are focused and dedicated, I know it hasn’t all been easy. You have worked hard and studied hard. You have proven yourself more than worthy of all you have […]

To My Valentine

To My Valentine, I have so many valentines now. But as I am thinking about my children and my grandchildren, my mind turns to you. You are the one, after all. You are the one who has always loved me. All of those years ago I didn’t understand how such a stud decided to pay […]

Wait – Think – Live

I wish I could show you…the astonishing light of your own being. Hafiz I am writing to you – my children and grandchildren – but also children and grandchildren everywhere. Life is fragile and ends quickly and often capriciously. Two people we know and love have died by suicide recently. One, a young man in […]