My journey into the New Year

“When I let go of what I am, I become what I might be.”   Lao Tzu Let this wonderful thought take me into the New Year. Our culture teaches us that what we do is important.  Labels matter.  Our position, our education, our accomplishments are what jockey us into position for a rewarding life.  After […]

Being Enough

“If my aim is to prove that I am ‘enough’ the project goes on to infinity – because the battle was already lost on the day I conceded the issue was debatable.” Nathaniel Branden in The Six Pillars of Self-Esteem. Of course, I haven’t finished the book because it got me thinking… about the difference between […]

Working My Way Through

It’s easy for me to delude myself.  After all, I don’t know what I don’t know.  And I don’t recognize my behavior when it is so common to me that it strikes no strident note. Most of my less-than-admirable behaviors just work themselves through my hours and days without my notice.  They form themselves into […]

Me and My Shadow

I’ve heard about the shadow in the last half of my life but I have only recently begun to do some work. I have known that looking through the lens of Enneagram Seven I see the bright side. But I didn’t realize how much I was blinded by the light. A man who is unconscious […]


As your desire is, so is your will. As your will is, so is your deed. As your deed is, so is your destiny. – Brihadaranyaka Upanishad (IV.4.5)   Ah…to think that I my destiny may be nurtured in the arms of my unacknowledged desires. That I may not even be aware of what drives me toward it. This […]


Your opinion is your opinion, your perception is your perception–do not confuse them with “facts” or “truth”. Wars have been fought and millions have been killed because of the inability of men to understand the idea that EVERYBODY has a different viewpoint.John Moore  I’m wondering when my opinions become the strongest. Or more to the […]

The Problem of Attachment

“That nothing is static or fixed, that all is fleeting and impermanent, is the first mark of existence. . .Everything. . .is always changing, moment to moment.”  Pema Chodron NOOOOOO…. What is it in me that hates change?* My heart aches for the spring flower that will fade in a day.  I create a bouquet […]

Examining My Strength

What a revelation. I have always considered myself to be very strong.  Physically, yes, but mentally and spiritually, also.  I can do it!  I can take it!  I’ll handle it. A teacher shocked me by questioning the authenticity of this.   Does my strong stance stem more from my desire to be perfect and to […]

Spirituality – a Definition of Hope

Originally posted  at My Life Class, December 4, 2011 (Modified) I watch Super Soul Sunday on the OWN network in snippets.  There is never a three-hour time that I am prepared to watch television unless I’m ill, and I’m not wishing for that. The program is recorded and it became a bright spot in my […]

Being Heard

“To change ourselves effectively, we first had to change our perceptions.” ― Stephen R. Covey Perspective is an interesting thing. I wrote a post several years ago about feeling invisible.  When I look at the world I realize that I don’t know the depths x breadth of destruction from not being heard. *** From my […]