Life is Good – Not a Struggle

This is my year to be hung up on my stroke, I guess. It’s my second year and reality has definitely set in. One morning while getting ready for water aerobics I pondered the struggle of get to the YMCA and into the pool. Then I thought, “Well, $*!@,  it’s not ever really going to […]

On the Water Again

Rowing was the coolest and most unlikely thing I did in my 60’s. I surprised myself by loving it. To the chagrin of my coach i was often swept away by the stillness of the lake in the early mornings or the beauty of the mist shrouding the mountains. My focus didn’t make me a […]

Remembering Mary on Her Birthday

When going through old albums in order to clear out my house, I stopped cold. I have sorted the treasures of friends and relatives after their passing. I don’t begrudge the time spent, it was a way of knowing more about their lives – touching the things that were important to them. Although I would […]

Compassion, again…

Compassion is not a relationship between the healer and the wounded. It’s a relationship between equals. Only when we know our own darkness well can we be present with the darkness of others. Compassion becomes real when we recognize our shared humanity.”― Pema Chödrön, The Places That Scare You: A Guide to Fearlessness in Difficult […]

More Preparation

Dear kids, I have to write another preamble. I have lived my life in such oblivion. I acknowledge that I have been a lifelong learner and have studied many disciplines and followed many paths. I am a deep thinker (or at least a constant one) but not necessarily a thorough investigator. I am a big […]

Sometimes it works…

  Well, you’ve heard a lot of bad news, you’ve heard a lot of sad news, and you deserve some good news. By now, you’re well aware that I am quite lazy. That I hate exercise! That I hate being scheduled! I hate disappointing people – especially myself. And that in spite of it all […]

When you know better…

Whenever I have been immobilized or unmotivated – whether in business, social or personal life – I have found that the best antidote is education. Learning something new, or even the intricacies of something I was already aware of, gives me a boost. It takes me outside myself. It pumps me up. And it teaches […]

Forgiveness…What Grief has to do with It.

I’m re-living this right now! I listened twice to Brené Brown discussing her book, Rising Strong, on Super Soul Sunday. It was the second time through when I really heard the part about forgiveness. “In order for forgiveness to happen, something has to die.”  She quoted her pastor as saying. And then she mentioned grief. […]

I acknowledge the loss…

Republished on what would have been Trayvon’s 24th birthday. …of a young man in Florida. When I read this boy’s name, one among thousands of young black men who have died for the wrong reasons, I am overwhelmed by grief and shame. The grief is for myself and every other parent and grandparent who cannot […]

Another one bites the dust…*

Don’t demand or expect that events happen as you would wish them to. Accept events as they actually happen. That way peace is possible. Epictetus What’s up with that? I would say that I have been very accepting – and I would be wrong. A recent epiphany didn’t feel like aha moment, it felt like […]