Arachnophobia – or not…

                        Spiders eat pests. Spiders feed on common indoor pests, such as roaches, earwigs, mosquitoes, flies and clothes moths. If left alone, spiders will consume most of the insects in your home, providing effective home pest control. Bayer Advanced I don’t like spiders. I […]

Expectations and Relationships

“What are expectations but premeditated disappointments?” Rod Stryker Let’s go back to expectations, shall we? Is it impossible to live without expectation? If we are really living the in present moment…does that mean we have left expectations behind? It’s a puzzle to me. Frequently I obsess about this since a conversation with my son almost […]

Faith and Acceptance

Dear Nephew, Just hearing the diagnosis has been enough to send all of us who love you bouncing between the bottomless pit of swirling fear and despair and a stunned disbelief. When we settle into reality it doesn’t always feel better. In fact, each medical phone call and office visit can be an assault of […]

Denial, Acceptance, Hope, Faith…What????

“…denial is not a refusal to see the truth, it is the inability to see the truth.” Unknown The big questions come up when my routine life is rattled by unexpected events: illness, death, and even great blessings. How did I get to this place? What did I do to arrive? What should I be […]

…on Worrying about Your Children

Worry does not empty tomorrow of its sorrow. It empties today of its strength. Corrie Ten Boom Dear Parent, Don’t waste your precious moments with your son. Stop a moment and look at him. Treasure him. Be grateful. It’s difficult growing up in a “successful” family. Everywhere one looks one sees certainty, solidity and pretty […]

Expectations – Acceptance – Gratitude

“What are expectations but premeditated disappointments (resentments)?” (Attributed to many) If you have ever written you will understand the state of my mind when I tried to post on my blog in the last weeks. I have not been devoid of ideas. It’s that I have an idea that I want to write about and […]

Grace by Acceptance

 Stages, by Herman Hesse As every flower fades and as all youth Departs, so life at every stage, So every virtue, so our grasp of truth, Blooms in its day and may not last forever. Since life may summon us at every age Be ready, heart, for parting, new endeavor, Be ready bravely and without […]

I’m All In

Love is not something we give or get; it is something that we nurture and grow. Brené Brown I spent many years in relationships while having one foot out of the door. Those were the times when I was saying I wanted to be a friend, a lover, a member of a group, and in […]

…on Coming Out

Today is National Coming Out Day. We celebrate those who have done and support those who have not.  This post will be filed as a form letter but is also deeply personal to me.  I hope that it may be of help to those of you who have a gay loved one who has or […]

Wanderings and Wondering about Approval

What feels better than approval? I know what I’m supposed to think.  I have read Eckhart Tolle and Deepak Chopra.  I understand ego.  I strive for self-referral.  And I bask in approval. I also get the downside of approval.  I’m a pleaser in recovery, so I know the slippery slope which can send me out […]