Father’s Day is Here Again

To the Family Fathers… I come from a tradition of involved fathers. It was my dad who sat huddled in a chair by my bed when my sore throats or earaches kept me awake at night. (Read more here.) It was my husband who went to the baby who cried in the night. As each […]

Another Giving Year

No one has ever become poor by giving. Anne Frank My Dear Children, Your excellence as parents is evident in many ways. In this season I am thankful that you have raised kind and responsible people. I brag about them a lot and have written before about my grandchildren’s philanthropic interests (here). Just a little […]

Gratitude – The Practice

Grat.i.tude ( a noun) The quality of being thankful; readiness to show appreciation for and to return kindness A feeling of appreciation and thankfulness for blessings or benefits we have received To recognize that the sources of goodness are outside of ourselves. An emotion expressing appreciation for what one has         Dear Children and Grandchildren, It […]

I Love You

Dear Children and Grandchildren: I love you. And I wish i could always show it in the right way. I wish I knew how to say it better. Still, life is like that between parent and child. Flawed. Inexact. Fraught with emotions and angst. And filled with love and true caring. So I ask you […]

A Generation Between

I wrote this many years ago…and it is still so true.   Dear Children, It comes down to the difference between parenting and grandparenting. Without blaming myself as a parent, I understand the difficulties of parenting: showing love versus giving guidance; giving direction without giving orders; teaching values without imposing ideology. When you were born […]

…on Being Your Mother

Dear Child of Mine, Life changed in the moment you were born.  My thoughts and feelings swirled around the room.  Like a life force they poured from my heart and head, swooshing about and resting on you as I held you in my arms.   Instantly you were wrapped in a warm blanket of love and […]

Parenting is Forever

I sometimes bring this letter forward from my archives because there seem to be a lot of people searching for letters to write to their own children.  Originally post March 29, 2011. Dear Child of Mine, Many of my thoughts of parenting represent hope for a better yesterday. I was inspired by watching Maya Angelou […]

My Mother’s Birthday

Dear Children, Here it is – Mom’s birthday again. Will I ever get better at expressing my feelings about my mother?  I know that the longer I live, the more I understand both her and myself. Observing her difficulty in making connection is an object lesson in love. In the years when you were under […]

Kid-Spotting*

Years pass and disperse people. They pick them up and fling them to far corners. That may give too much responsibility to the years and not enough to individuals, but, still… I seem to spend as much time in cars and planes as I do in front of my own fireplace. I have the desire […]

Freedom to Fly Away…

Dear Children. I’m always conflicted when you leave. I’m happy for what you are experiencing and I am a little anxious that you are off my radar. In this case, I won’t be able to call you on the phone and because I haven’t visited India, I won’t truly hear the sounds, smell the smells, […]