The Circle of Life, Death, and Learning

“Will the circle be unbroken By and by, lord, by and by…” Ada R. Habershon It’s part of becoming an elder, isn’t it? Death and dying enters our circle as a constant rather than an occasional visitor. One of my best friends died in January and now the husband of another close friend has begun […]

Grieving from a Distance

Dear Ones, By not booking an immediate flight home when Gen died, I have created my own vacuum here in Mexico. I love it that you are all there for me when I need to call. Just a familiar voice now and then fills that lonely spot a bit. And solitude is the purpose of […]

My Friend, Gen

“You do not have to be good. You do not have to walk on your knees for a hundred miles through the desert, repenting. You only have to let the soft animal of your body love what it loves.” Wild Geese by Mary Oliver* Today I have lost a dear friend. I am sad. And, […]

A New Normal?

“Normal day, let me be aware of the treasure you are. Let me learn from you, love you, bless you before you depart. Let me not pass you by in quest of some rare and perfect tomorrow. Let me hold you while I may, for it may not always be so. One day I shall […]

The Letting Go

“To live in this world you must be able to do three things: to love what is mortal,  to hold it against your bones knowing your own life depends on it; and, when the time comes to let it go, let it go.” -Mary Oliver Aahh…it’s that letting go, isn’t it? I watch my sister […]

We are with you here…

“This place where you are right now, God circled on a map for you.” Hafiz Dear Nephew, We are bringing you home today to be with your family in familiar surroundings. I grieve for our loss of you but I do not grieve for you.  I rejoice for all that you are and all you […]

The Spirits Are Arriving

“To forget one’s ancestors is to be a brook without a source, a tree without a root.” Chinese Proverb The visitations begin early for me. I get a nudge from my sister, Pat…”How about hummus?” Mom is always insistent on her butter beans (but this year I’m making her slaw). And I’m not sure whether […]

Losing a Friend

“Make a joyful noise unto the Lord, all ye lands. Serve the Lord with gladness… Enter into his gates with thanksgiving, and into his courts with praise…“ Psalms 100 I am not a memory keeper. I look to others in my life to save the details of my history – to rehash and relish silly […]

Saturday: Three Funerals and a Birthday Party

Why is death always a surprise. It is, after all, a foregone conclusion. There has been a turnaround. Our social calendar is filled with more celebrations of life than celebrations in life. In spite of this cumulative knowledge and no matter how many years we have lived, we are stunned when life ends for someone […]

Thinking of You

My Dear Friends. Losing a child is something that I can never contemplate. Sometimes I practice in my mind for the future – what would I do without my husband, or with the catching sorrow of losing another sister. I cannot and would not have those thoughts concerning my children and grandchildren. It is unthinkable. […]