Family Dissension – Without Answers

I sometimes bring this letter forward from my archives because there seem to be a lot of people searching for letters to write to their own children.  Originally post October 5, 2010. Family dissension is an everyday thing; the kind in which someone or everyone disagrees, argues, and in some strange pattern, agrees to disagree.  […]

…on Meeting Halfway

(NOTE.  This is one of a series of requested letters that will be posted under “Form Letters” for those of you who would like an idea or a template for a letter of your own.) Dear Daughter, I am wondering what has gone wrong between us.  We see things very differently.  I feel as if […]

…on working together for the children

(NOTE:  This is one of a series of requested letters that will be posted under “Form Letters”,  for those of you who would like an idea or a template for a letter of your own.) Dear Ex: I need your help.  I am hopeful that we can cooperate and continue to do what is best […]

Acceptance and Change

Dear Nephew, Thank you for sharing your insights with me.  I’m happy for you that you can take responsibility for those things in your life which you have done and still understand that much of what happens in our lives (especially our childhood) is without our input and outside of our control.  It’s very releasing […]

…on being separated from children

(NOTE:  This is one of a series of requested letters that will be posted under “Form Letters”.  These are for those of you who would like an idea or a template for a letter of your own.) To My Dear Child, This separation is hard, isn’t it?  I want to be closer to you, both […]

Absolution in Life and Death

By brother-in-law gave me a great gift by living long enough for me to redeem myself. Our relationship was always tainted by my judgment of how he lived his life.  Looking back, I can’t recall that he singled me out for judgment.  Because of the difference in our beliefs, I’m sure he was appalled at […]

Learning about death…

I wonder who comforted my older sister when her husband died. She popped into my mind as I stumbled into the car at 0 light hundred to go to my youngest sister whose husband died a few days ago. I’ve been through more death now.  I have a better idea of what to do.  And […]

Changing Back

I am my attitude. When I get judgmental or resentful or just plain pissy, I change into a fractured, ungrounded person.  Or is it the other way around? I’ve lived through this lots of times.  So why does it take me so long to connect my flopping about with stinking thoughts? Or to get myself […]

On the Way to Being Myself

It’s comforting to know that I can do what I need to do when I need to do it.  I’m pleased that I can step up to the plate in the split second of necessity and perform with a modicum of grace. Especially when I have gone through a week of self-tortured internal brattiness.  Why, […]

What’s a Mother to Do?

I have a new role but  the script hasn’t been delivered yet. My husband and I are now the parents of grown children in crisis. This is new to us.  Oh, we’ve had our share of job losses, accidents, recalcitrant children, surgeries, and relationship traumas; but we haven’t had those gut-wrenching, stress inducing, life threatening […]