Peace for Veterans…a Wish

Today is Veteran’s Day.* The Great War figured largely in stories told to me in my childhood.  My father’s middle brother ran away at 15 to fight in World War I.  He returned an alcoholic wanderer who dropped in and out of sight until his early death.  He was a bit of a legend and […]

Follow Your Own Dreams

Years ago my granddaughter was what…enamored? in love? in lust?  I just re-discovered this letter I wrote to her. Does it work for you and yours? Dear Granddaughter: Thanks for sharing his letter.  I know that hearing from him means a lot to you. Are you seeing what I’m seeing in his response to you?  […]

There are all sorts of love.

On my way to a nephew’s wedding celebration today. Thinking of these connections I am reprinting this post from 2009. “And did you get what you wanted from this life, even so? I did. And what did you want? To call myself beloved, to feel myself beloved on the earth.”  Raymond Carver I had a […]

On the Day You Were Born

On the day you were born the round planet Earth turned toward your morning sky, whirling past darkness, spanning the night into light. On the Day you Were Born, Debra Frasier I can almost transport myself to that day…the anticipation, the pain, the joy, and the instant alarm that never completely obliterated the joy. In […]

Magical Parenting

To My Dear Children: I don’t think about or analyze it much, but scratch the surface of parenting and I see the ugly underbelly of being a child raising children. You have all made a liar of statistics. Predictions for children born to teenage parents are not encouraging. But let’s look at the positives: 1) […]

I Remember Joanie(‘s mother)

I’ve been reading another book by Brenè Brown. The Gifts of Imperfection has encouraged me to examine how I deal with shame. Do you remember the first time you felt real shame? I must have been six or seven, old enough to have comprehended life and death to some degree. Mostly, though, I thought about […]

Growing Up By Trial and Error

Ah, Dear Children, When I judge someone, it comes back to bite me. Very quickly I will probably do the thing that I was judging, or something similar. This has been especially true with parenting. I’ve had some growing to do. A story… The mid-to-late 1990’s were difficult years for me. My career was all-consuming, […]

Family Ties

Having just returned from a week visiting family, my priorities are reinforced: the past, the present and the future of family is what matters. It was a pleasure-packed trip. Not only did I get to see where my granddaughter lives during this year of college, I spent  hours with some of my siblings. Sisters and […]

Thanksgiving

So many vignettes pass through my mind of holidays past. I remember walking in the door my first time visiting my future husband’s HUGE family.  In my graceless moment of shyness and confusion, I couldn’t distinguish the ones I had met before from those I had never seen.  I stammered, stayed silent, and clung tenaciously […]

Music Appreciation

I am not a musician. I love music and as a child I wanted to excel at the piano,  but my teacher was strict and I hated to practice.  And didn’t have my sisters’ facility of playing the piano by ear. We didn’t have a guitar, just a ukelele which I strummed atonally as I […]