Reading and Having and Holding

Change is the essence of life. Be willing to surrender what you are for what you could become. ~ Rumi Dear Grandson, You are looking at change. I admire your bravery and am stunned by your ability to wait. I talked about sending you a list of books for this time of renewal and restoration, […]

Peace for Veterans…a Wish

Today is Veteran’s Day.* The Great War figured largely in stories told to me in my childhood.  My father’s middle brother ran away at 15 to fight in World War I.  He returned an alcoholic wanderer who dropped in and out of sight until his early death.  He was a bit of a legend and […]

Happy Birthday, Dear Daughter

Dear Daughter, I remember your birth with great joy. I suppose those first steps in motherhood were halting, but I didn’t realize my own youth and ignorance. I lived in the euphoria of first love. Closing my eyes I can almost smell the softness of your baby skin. I can feel the wisps of hair […]

Losing a Friend

“Make a joyful noise unto the Lord, all ye lands. Serve the Lord with gladness… Enter into his gates with thanksgiving, and into his courts with praise…“ Psalms 100 I am not a memory keeper. I look to others in my life to save the details of my history – to rehash and relish silly […]

A Site for Remembrance

Dad has been in the closet for a long time. He was cremated in 2006 and spent the next five years by the couch where his wife lived her days with him, her dog, and her cat. When his wife moved north with her daughter several years ago, he became my responsibility. My father’s only […]

Happy Anniversary

Last night as we lay in bed, we reminded each other that today is our wedding anniversary. I was complimenting you on hanging in there for fifty-three years. I added the tagline, “So far!” “You always say that,” you protested. And you’re right. It’s my timeworn joke: we never make the claim that we will […]

History and Remembering

“What does your history with someone mean if they no longer remember it?”  My daughter asked this question on Facebook after we visited my Dad’s wife who didn’t recognize her. Talking with someone who has been a part of your life forever and who cannot connect you as a vibrant part of that life, is […]