The Grandparent Thing

“There were no mirrors in my Nana’s house/no mirrors in my Nana’s house/So the beauty that I saw in everything/the beauty in everything/was in her eyes/like the rising of the sun. I only knew love and I never knew hate.” Ysaye M. Barnwell What was my model for grandparenting? Interesting question! Thinking back to when […]

A Visit with Gratitude

It’s an emotional time but I am through crying. I am still sad about your leave-taking and at the same time I am overcome with gratitude. I am grateful that you are healthy enough to travel. I am grateful that you are able to take the time and resources to visit us. I am grateful […]

Happy New Year

It wasn’t so long ago that I took a happy new year’s greeting at face value. Of course, the new year would be happy. The worldfFelt totally within my control and I expected good things. Well, I still expect good things. But it has come quite emphatically to my attention in the past year that […]

…on Christmas and You

(NOTE:  Do you want to write to your new love? Your aging husband?  Your child?  Your Friend?   I hope this helps you find the words you need for the person you love.  This is one of a series of requested letters  posted under “Form Letters” for those of you who would like an idea or […]

Graduation – an End and a Beginning

Dear Grandson, Happy Graduation! Onward and Upward on your new path! Look to the future! New people, new experiences! Yeah, yeah, yeah… I know. The sadness of leaving high school isn’t discussed much, is it? No one talks about what you are leaving behind. Graduating is a happy experience. Your achievements are celebrated, accolades are […]

Follow Your Own Dreams

Years ago my granddaughter was what…enamored? in love? in lust?  I just re-discovered this letter I wrote to her. Does it work for you and yours? Dear Granddaughter: Thanks for sharing his letter.  I know that hearing from him means a lot to you. Are you seeing what I’m seeing in his response to you?  […]

A Generation Between

I wrote this many years ago…and it is still so true.   Dear Children, It comes down to the difference between parenting and grandparenting. Without blaming myself as a parent, I understand the difficulties of parenting: showing love versus giving guidance; giving direction without giving orders; teaching values without imposing ideology. When you were born […]

Thanksgiving

As always, my feelings seem intensified on a holiday. My heart is filled with many emotions. A chunk of it feels broken and bruised, holding place for my sister and her family as my nephew struggles for his life. A raw spot chafes from the loss of our friends’ child who died this year. And […]

Gratitude and Joy

Maybe gratitude has nothing to do with joy.  Meredith Grey But I think it does. My son and I were discussing joy yesterday. How do we put joy in our life? How do we identify what gives us joy? One way, I think, is by presence in a moment of our lives and having gratitude […]

More on Expectations

Is it impossible to live without expectation? Or if we are really living in the present moment…does it leave expectations behind? Personally, when I think I am living without expectations, it is because my dreams and plans for life are so much a part of me that I don’t recognize them as such. The things […]