Remembering Mary on Her Birthday

When going through old albums in order to clear out my house, I stopped cold. I have sorted the treasures of friends and relatives after their passing. I don’t begrudge the time spent, it was a way of knowing more about their lives – touching the things that were important to them. Although I would […]

The Day is Coming…

I walked into the room and Mary’s gaze swept over me and beyond. My heart skipped a little and I wondered if this was it. My self-talk as I approach the care facility is continual preparation for the inevitable. I remind myself of our conversation a couple of years ago when she asked me, “What […]

Joy and Sorrow in the Afternoon

I know! I know! I create suffering by my expectations. Still, I always expect the best. I’ve written before about my lifelong BFF. You can read about her here. I love this woman. In spite of her dementia, she is always thrilled to see me. Two weeks ago we had a wonderful time when I […]

The Elusive Past

She gestures, looking around and opening her arms to the world, “I didn’t know everything would change.” Her mind won’t grasp details. If I asked her, she wouldn’t come up with examples.  Out of kindness, I don’t ask. I understand that nothing is as she would have expected. My friend has always been a take-charge […]

Grace by Acceptance

 Stages, by Herman Hesse As every flower fades and as all youth Departs, so life at every stage, So every virtue, so our grasp of truth, Blooms in its day and may not last forever. Since life may summon us at every age Be ready, heart, for parting, new endeavor, Be ready bravely and without […]