Compassion, again…

Compassion is not a relationship between the healer and the wounded. It’s a relationship between equals. Only when we know our own darkness well can we be present with the darkness of others. Compassion becomes real when we recognize our shared humanity.”― Pema Chödrön, The Places That Scare You: A Guide to Fearlessness in Difficult […]

A Moment of the (Extra) Day

Wow…an entire day to do with what I choose…bwahahahah!   Seems I forgot to leave February 29th out of the scheduling.  It had, by early this morning, become just another day. But my day starts differently nowadays.  I have re-instituted an old pattern that was life-changing in the beginning and has not lost its power. Many […]

Changing Back

I am my attitude. When I get judgmental or resentful or just plain pissy, I change into a fractured, ungrounded person.  Or is it the other way around? I’ve lived through this lots of times.  So why does it take me so long to connect my flopping about with stinking thoughts? Or to get myself […]

Ramblings on Death and Uncertainty

“Since death is certain, and time of death is uncertain; what is important?” Pema Chodron,  The Way of the Bodhisattva. My mind is filled with the words of others today.  My own thoughts don’t come in proper sequence.  Some lead to blank walls.  Some lead to a gerbil wheel of questions that I can’t seem […]

Me Me Me Me Me Me Me

Each day I aspire to  some version of enlightenment.  When things fall apart  I’d like be a cross between my father and Pema Chodron… I’ll listen, I’ll pray, and calmly love and support; caring deeply but retaining enough detachment to serve a higher purpose. Yet some days I am astounded by my selfishness.  I am […]

You Sweet Thing!

I have been listening to Pema Chodron lately and I’m down with the Buddhist concept of being kind and gentle to oneself.  I’m not sure how that grooves with their habit of getting up at three in the a.m. to do prostrations*, but I’ve never been one to order the full meal deal.  I tend […]