Letting Go

Who hurt you, once, so far beyond repair that you would meet each overture with curling lip? While we, who knew you well, your friends, (the focus of your scorn) could see your courage in the face of fear, your wit, and thoughtfulness, and will remember you with something close to love. Marylyn Plessner Maybe […]

The Mother Line

Dear Kids, Today is my Mom’s birthday.* She’s been on my mind a lot lately and so I’ve been thinking about mothering. Parenting is a bit of a continuum although it may be a winding path. After all, we want to change things that our parents did. We want to do better. We want to […]

Living Through Change

I need a moment here: to be relieved, be angry, to grieve and to have moments of self-doubt.  I need to do it without myself, my family or my friends defending me and minimizing my feelings. It’s hard not to have regret when someone dies.  For my husband and I, the death of each of […]

Learning about death…

I wonder who comforted my older sister when her husband died. She popped into my mind as I stumbled into the car at 0 light hundred to go to my youngest sister whose husband died a few days ago. I’ve been through more death now.  I have a better idea of what to do.  And […]

And then there was me…

Am I not the pious one?  When I read my last blog I realize once again how easy it is to acknowledge the problems of others.  My fingers speed over the keyboard expressing my unease with alcohol as used by others.  I’m a master of how it should be for all of those “drinkers” out […]