Naming Names

My husband often repeats a family catch-phrase, “Call me anything but late for dinner”. I guess I can go with that. I am who I am no matter what I am called.  Although I have been touchy about some things. I don’t like people shortening my name to Lynn. My sister-in-law is the only one […]

Maya and Me

I met Maya in my thirties when I read “I know why the caged bird sings”.  Her experience was not familiar to me and didn’t seem to touch my life. I never caught up with her but I grew because of her. I came to understand the human experience and through the years I bonded […]

A Recipe for Aging (or Reconciling the Age Account)

Aging and parenting create an interesting combination. It is an heirloom recipe that I must dig from past history and review from time to time until I can do it from memory. I’m grappling with the ingredients again since my daughter’s illness.* From the negative side it would be titled, “My Life in Redundancy“.  A […]

On Accepting Myself

Dear Sister, I struggle with this concept and I think you do, too.   Accepting ourselves has never been easy for either of us. Oprah has been telling us for years that we are perfect the way we are.  And like all of the rest of us, I think she is still convincing herself.  And […]

My Heart and You

Sometimes I want to wrap you up and hold you safe in my heart. Because when you make mistakes, you seem to see those mistakes as defining you. Because I look at you and see an amazing woman, and you talk about yourself as if you aren’t enough. Because you deserve the best that life […]

Self vs Self

Years ago I was amused when my 83-year-old mother said, “I walked by the mirror and wondered what old woman was looking back at me.” I understand better now. Still I amused myself today. As I was approaching the grocery store I saw a “mature” woman turning back to her cart, having finished loading her […]

You Sweet Thing!

I have been listening to Pema Chodron lately and I’m down with the Buddhist concept of being kind and gentle to oneself.  I’m not sure how that grooves with their habit of getting up at three in the a.m. to do prostrations*, but I’ve never been one to order the full meal deal.  I tend […]

Globetrekking as Self-Improvement

I am a homebody.  I love to be home.  My happiest days are spent in my own house and garden. The space I have created gives me great joy. And I always have a plan to leave it behind. I want to spend a month of each year in Mexico.  Before I die I want […]