The Mother Line

Dear Kids, Today is my Mom’s birthday.* She’s been on my mind a lot lately and so I’ve been thinking about mothering. Parenting is a bit of a continuum although it may be a winding path. After all, we want to change things that our parents did. We want to do better. We want to […]

…on Living with Suicide

My Dear Friends, As parents we want to believe that there is always something  we can do to help our children. If we could do… or if we could have done… This propensity for making ourselves responsible is a heavy burden on our best days. On this worst day I wish I could lift this […]

…on Losing My Relationship with My Daughter

NOTE.  This is one of a series of requested letters that will be posted under “Form Letters” for those of you who would like an idea or a template for a letter of your own.) Dear Daughter. Please tell me what I have done.  You say there is nothing and I know it isn’t true. […]

Fear of Missing Something

Dear Family, I’ve written about FOMS before…but writing about it doesn’t change it. I want to be everywhere and not miss anything.  The difficulty is: we over-procreated and there are so many of you; geographically widespread and active in all sorts of pursuits.  When spring break rolls around each year I feel myself metaphorically stretched […]

…on Meeting Halfway

(NOTE.  This is one of a series of requested letters that will be posted under “Form Letters” for those of you who would like an idea or a template for a letter of your own.) Dear Daughter, I am wondering what has gone wrong between us.  We see things very differently.  I feel as if […]

…on Disagreeing with a Grown Child

(NOTE:  This is a re-post due to popular demand. This is one of a series of requested letters that will be posted under “Form Letters” for those of you who would like an idea or a template for a letter of your own. ) Dear Son/Daughter: This is a strange subject for us, isn’t it.  […]

…on working together for the children

(NOTE:  This is one of a series of requested letters that will be posted under “Form Letters”,  for those of you who would like an idea or a template for a letter of your own.) Dear Ex: I need your help.  I am hopeful that we can cooperate and continue to do what is best […]

The Perfect Parent(s)

I was reading a post on one of my favorite blogs, Love Isn’t Enough (click here), and got myself fired up over that slippery slope that single parents constantly negotiate: the printed word that tells them that they are not enough.  And that in order to have the perfect parenting situation, there must be a […]

…on being separated from children

(NOTE:  This is one of a series of requested letters that will be posted under “Form Letters”.  These are for those of you who would like an idea or a template for a letter of your own.) To My Dear Child, This separation is hard, isn’t it?  I want to be closer to you, both […]

A Tribute to Thought in Parenting

 “It’s never to late to be who you might have been”.  George Eliot My child-rearing days are long past. Even my grandchildren are fast approaching adulthood.  What I did or didn’t think of at the time may now only be approached through thoughtful conversations and exchanges of ideas with you. I read a post this […]