This was a post in 2009 but I think it may be appropriate to reprint in these times. I don’t often use the word.  In fact, I have an aversion to the judgmental quality of it.  After all, when it comes to people, isn’t it arrogant to assume that they should perform to my expectations?  […]

Acknowledging and Owning Tragedy

This is written in tribute to 7 recent victims of violence in Baton Rouge, LA, Falcon Heights, MINN*, and Dallas, TX – plus the myriads who die in the world each day by the hands of those living in fear, ignorance, frustration, and hatred. Defensiveness is an interesting stance. We have all stood there – […]

Living for Peace

Mostly, I have been silent  on the tragedy in Charleston. I haven’t known what to say. I want to stand for what I believe. I speak about  understanding the reality of terrorism. I speak up about the travesty of inequality and the inequities in our system. But I don’t want to be mad at every […]

More than Baltimore

I remember being confounded by the Watts riots in 1965. Why would people wreak havoc on their own lives and those of their friends and neighbors. I understood the fury but not the response. Through more years of rage and riots around the world, I grew grew in understanding. My own rage simmered at injustice […]

What can I do?

  I’ve written about my annual education before. The Ashland Independent Film Festival screens issues that concern me, intrigue me, inspire me, anger me, delight me. Coming off of five days of films I am cracked open.   So when I caught up on the newspapers and read Leonard Pitts my stomach clutched and my chest […]

How Can We but Grieve?

As I am preparing a post on the acceptance of death and am interrupted by the news of another shooting. The lives of school children in Connecticut have been cut short. This is only days after the shooting at a mall in Oregon. There are times when we can only join as one and cry […]

A Small Hope

None of us is immune.  Each of us can lie awake in the night wondering: “Could this happen to me?” “Will my child die needlessly?” “Is my child a killer?” My thoughts and prayers are with the victims and their families.  My deepest wish is for comfort and nurturing for the Holmes family.  My concern […]

…on Being Abused

I recently witnessed a troubling exchange in the grocery store.  I didn’t handle it well.  And I don’t know how I could have done it better.  It was troubling. Dear Abused: I hope I didn’t make your situation worse.  It was such a shock to hear a man’s voice yelling, “SHUT UP!” so near me.  […]

…on Taking a Breather from Difficulties

NOTE.  This is one of a series of requested letters that will be posted under “Form Letters” for those of you who would like an idea or a template for a letter of your own.) Dear Son, It’s hard for me to comprehend how things went so terribly wrong. I am  confused about your behavior.  […]


We stand as one among countless families affected by violence.  Families whose lives have been changed. Abuse, molestation, rape, murder.  We have survived  and we stand together in working for change. I wanted to write something as a reminder of V-Day around the world. Not necessarily a reminder of what has gone before, but a reminder […]