You are enough!

I am re-posting this as a form letter. Perhaps it will help you write your your child or grandchild. To what standard do you hold yourself?  Who is the paragon to whom you compare yourself? You do not disappoint! You are a person of soul and virtue.  You may have lived through things or done […]

Parable of the Mustard Seed – My Version

“If you had faith even as small as a mustard seed, you could say to this mountain, ‘Move from here to there,’ and it would move. Nothing would be impossible.” Matthew 17:20 (New Living Translation) Dear Granddaughter, I was raised with this concept that one could accomplish miracles, veritably move mountains, if one could only […]

Faith and Acceptance

Dear Nephew, Just hearing the diagnosis has been enough to send all of us who love you bouncing between the bottomless pit of swirling fear and despair and a stunned disbelief. When we settle into reality it doesn’t always feel better. In fact, each medical phone call and office visit can be an assault of […]

You know you’re an optimist when…

I have my moments of inertia and incapacitation.  I feel grief.  I mourn.  And then I go on.  I wonder about my reactions sometimes. The difficulty is in choosing a label for my behavior. I answered the questionnaire on http://www.optimi.org/test/testopen.htm but, as usual, the questions didn’t exactly fit. I tried self-analysis. Am I just foolish […]

Death and Faith and…

My dear Grandson. When I read your post on Facebook, I wished that I could hug you and sit with you and talk and talk.  “No one up there is looking out for us,”  you said. I understand why you are questioning.  It’s hard to reconcile the sad and shocking things in life to faith […]

To Thine Own Self…

This above all: to thine own self be true, And it must follow, as the night the day, Thou canst not then be false to any man. Hamlet Act 1, scene 3 Dear Granddaughter, I have been thinking so much about our conversation on Sunday.  Trust is truly the foundation of all relationships. Rebuilding the […]

Rehab for One and All

I haven’t read the books yet, but I sense my discomfort with letting go. My certainties that I can help, that I know at least some of the answers, and that everyone and everything depends on me, are each a hindrance in our new situation.  We are breaking ground in new territory and it’s going […]

Health Quiz 101

I’m confident that as my children you are genetically wired to wonder about your health.  And maybe you don’t want answers. But I was raised in a family culture that impressed upon me the responsibility for my own well-being.  In some ways, this was good.  My parents handed down a wealth of knowledge (when I […]

Fear and Decisions

I was reading When Things Fall Apart by Pema Chodron while waiting in the oncology office for my friend.  I was getting to the part about facing fear… Her illness isn’t about my fear.  And after the first shock when I learned of her breast cancer, my feelings about her illness are not wrapped up […]

I know what I need.

My thoughts about Mexico are assembled.  And there is much to do. When I think of what gives me joy in travel, it is always the connections.  In most cases, I have this with my fellow travelers since I rarely travel alone.  And I also love the emotional mini-connections I make on my journeys.  The […]