Christmas Changes

Christmas changes every year. Some are barely recognizable as Christmas past. Somewhere along the way we became more interested in giving than getting. We are more captivated by the needs of strangers and less interested what our children and grandchildren might want – they don’t really need anything. And through the stories that filter back […]

Merry Christmas to All

Reprinted from 2013 Dear Family, ‘Twas the night before Christmas and all the through the house, not a creature was stirring… …except for my gerbil mind racing on it’s circular track. Well, that’s not exactly true.  I have spent a restful night, just not a deep-sleeping night.  And I’m thinking that wakefulness on the night […]

Thanksgiving

“Why you be so pi’iful” Gracie, 4 years old As I was working my way through dressing this morning, I was worrying about Facetime. I know I will see all of my family today via electronics. Am I presentable? Suddenly, I found myself crying. I don’t want my grandchildren to think I’m pitiful. In the […]

Easter Again…

Dear Children and Grandchildren, (and friends), Yesterday I realized the this is Easter Sunday. Such memories! In my life holidays have morphed into unrecognizable days that have little to do with the past. I remember Easters that had great spiritual or familial meaning. I’ve written about some of them. I know people who maintain family […]

You are enough!

I am re-posting this as a form letter. Perhaps it will help you write your your child or grandchild. To what standard do you hold yourself?  Who is the paragon to whom you compare yourself? You do not disappoint! You are a person of soul and virtue.  You may have lived through things or done […]

We are with you here…

“This place where you are right now, God circled on a map for you.” Hafiz Dear Nephew, We are bringing you home today to be with your family in familiar surroundings. I grieve for our loss of you but I do not grieve for you.  I rejoice for all that you are and all you […]

Thanksgiving

As always, my feelings seem intensified on a holiday. My heart is filled with many emotions. A chunk of it feels broken and bruised, holding place for my sister and her family as my nephew struggles for his life. A raw spot chafes from the loss of our friends’ child who died this year. And […]

There are all sorts of love.

On my way to a nephew’s wedding celebration today. Thinking of these connections I am reprinting this post from 2009. “And did you get what you wanted from this life, even so? I did. And what did you want? To call myself beloved, to feel myself beloved on the earth.”  Raymond Carver I had a […]

Kid-Spotting*

Years pass and disperse people. They pick them up and fling them to far corners. That may give too much responsibility to the years and not enough to individuals, but, still… I seem to spend as much time in cars and planes as I do in front of my own fireplace. I have the desire […]

Thanksgiving Thoughts

Maybe gratitude has nothing to do with joy. Maybe being grateful means recognizing what you have for what it is. Appreciating small victories. Admiring the struggle it takes simply to be human. Meredith Grey Thanksgiving brings out my feelings of gratitude. Through the years my Thanksgiving posts express the joy I feel in my life. […]