The Mother Line

”I learned that courage was not the absence of fear, but the triumph over it. The brave man is not he who does not feel afraid, but he who conquers that fear.” – Nelson Mandela Dear Granddaughters, Can one teach courage? Maybe not – maybe you must model it. When I think of my mother-line […]

Live Your Life

Montana Hiker Dies of Suicide Shortly After His Girlfriend Perishes in Avalanche       My love, I’m in a quandary as a grandmother. Above all, I want you to live.  I want you to live fully and joyfully. From the perspective of age, I want to remind you how important your life is – no […]

Being Who You Are

Periodically I read this letter and wonder who needs to hear encouraging words. This is a long one…but take only what YOU need. Dear Granddaughter, I have been thinking about who you are. You are smart; you are beautiful; you are kind and generous (btw, no one is 100% on this);  you are clever and […]

Follow Your Own Dreams

Years ago my granddaughter was what…enamored? in love? in lust?  I just re-discovered this letter I wrote to her. Does it work for you and yours? Dear Granddaughter: Thanks for sharing his letter.  I know that hearing from him means a lot to you. Are you seeing what I’m seeing in his response to you?  […]

Happy 21

This is a post brought forward from the past because so many of you are looking for those birthday letters. Dear Granddaughter, The Facebook posts and emails are flying. It is a celebration of you. Our son can’t believe he is the father of a 21-year-old. Your mother is remembering driving you home from the […]

Parable of the Mustard Seed – My Version

“If you had faith even as small as a mustard seed, you could say to this mountain, ‘Move from here to there,’ and it would move. Nothing would be impossible.” Matthew 17:20 (New Living Translation) Dear Granddaughter, I was raised with this concept that one could accomplish miracles, veritably move mountains, if one could only […]

Women Paying it Forward

Last Sunday I went to a soulful gathering for my granddaughter. It was unusual because in our culture – lacking a Bat Mitzvah or a Quinceañera – there seems to be no tradition that formally launches a young woman. More importantly there is no occasion on which she is held in the circle of the […]

Gratitude and Joy

Maybe gratitude has nothing to do with joy.  Meredith Grey But I think it does. My son and I were discussing joy yesterday. How do we put joy in our life? How do we identify what gives us joy? One way, I think, is by presence in a moment of our lives and having gratitude […]

The Beginning of a Beginning

An engagement or betrothal is a promise to wed, and also the period of time between a marriage proposal and a marriage—which may be lengthy or trivial.  Wikipedia Dearest Granddaughter: Hearing about your engagement was a great thrill.  From all of our heart-to-heart talks through the years I know what you want in a relationship. […]

…on Having a 21-Year-Old Granddaughter.

I first published this when my first Granddaughter turned 21 in 2009. Now three of my grandchildren have attained this magical age. Ah, how the time files. I am re-publishing this because I have so many requests for Letters to Grandchildren as they grow to adulthood. To my Granddaughter: Twenty-one years ago today my life […]