Vulnerability has been a buzzword for awhile. The concept isn’t new. The struggle for intimacy has been the root of our relationship issues forever, hasn’t it?  And vulnerability is the key to intimacy. I can’t have close relationships if I don’t engage. Show up. Be myself. Risk being hurt. Open my heart. I’m in a […]

A Generation Between

I wrote this many years ago…and it is still so true. Dear Children, It comes down to the difference between parenting and grandparenting. Without blaming myself as a parent, I understand the difficulties of parenting: showing love versus giving guidance; giving direction without giving orders; teaching values without imposing ideology. When you were born I […]

…on Being Your Mother

Dear Child of Mine, Life changed in the moment you were born.  My thoughts and feelings swirled around the room.  Like a life force they poured from my heart and head, swooshing about and resting on you as I held you in my arms.   Instantly you were wrapped in a warm blanket of love and […]

…to My Daughter When I Die

NOTE.  This is one of a series of requested letters that will be posted under “Form Letters” for those of you who are looking for an idea or a template for a letter of your own. Dear Daughter, I’ve never considered myself immortal, but until my illness I hadn’t really thought of dying and leaving […]


Reposted from 2/17/2011 because I had forgotten it until someone searched it out and read it.  NOTE: This is an extremely shallow treatment of a complex subject…just so you realize that I’m aware! My dentist and his assistant were talking about child rearing as they worked. I had been included in the conversation until it […]

Growing Up By Trial and Error

Ah, Dear Children, When I judge someone, it comes back to bite me. Very quickly I will probably do the thing that I was judging, or something similar. This has been especially true with parenting. I’ve had some growing to do. A story… The mid-to-late 1990’s were difficult years for me. My career was all-consuming, […]

My Dream, Your Dream

We all have dreams for our children and grandchildren. Some big.  Some small. Some that even come true. And when they don’t, it’s okay to take a little time to be sad as we say goodbye to what might have been. We can be happy for our kids, and proud of their decisions and 100% […]


There is no perfect parenting is there? Parents in each generation look at the mistakes of the last, correct what they perceive to be egregious, and continue on to make their own mistakes. Today I am just thinking about perfection. Period. I am hoping you know the difference between the perfection of who you are, […]

Seeing You is Joy

Last week at the ranch I was close to my father in spirit. I came ever nearer to understanding why he used to sit quietly and contentedly amid the hubbub of my family ; asking nothing, watching everything and missing the fine points due to his impaired hearing. I know now that he was truly […]

Birthdays and Memorials

Today I am sharing my birthday with a remembrance of U. S. soldiers who have served my country through the years. I was born at the beginning of World War II and I have no memory of that war. At one period of my life I read everything I could find about it; trying to […]