The Women I Like

Many people will walk in and out of your life, but only true friends will leave footprints in your heart. Eleanor Roosevelt I have re-published posts before, but I haven’t always added to them. Somehow, though, I felt some invitations were necessary. It’s been many years since I have had my “Women I Like” party.  […]

Tragedy Lives On

My heart is still breaking. Perhaps not breaking, but crumbling. Since our friends’ failed death pact two months ago, not a day goes by that I don’t think of her and wish I could tell her something. I have a question I want to ask him. Then I realize again that she is gone and […]

50 Years and Counting

REPOSTED FROM 2009 This morning I am sitting on the deck of a sailing ship looking across a turquoise sea to a Caribbean Island. The scene has changed from 1959. Then it was an emotional and spiritual crisis for a Catholic to marry a Protestant. Then it wasn’t common, but neither was it unheard of, […]

Together – We Are More!

“If you want to know yourself, look at your friends.” When I read this posit several years ago I began seeing my friends differently. After all, it’s a way to look outward for a little self-knowledge. When I look at my friends, what do I see of myself? Why are they my friends and I […]

Honesty and Aging

“Our entire life … consists ultimately in accepting ourselves as we are.”― Jean Anouih My friends and I are giving each other a gift that I wish we had known enough – and been brave enough – to give earlier. We are giving the gift of honesty. Because the older we get, the more we […]

A Generation Between

I wrote this many years ago…and it is still so true. Dear Children, It comes down to the difference between parenting and grandparenting. Without blaming myself as a parent, I understand the difficulties of parenting: showing love versus giving guidance; giving direction without giving orders; teaching values without imposing ideology. When you were born I […]

Time for a Change!

“How we spend our days is, of course, how we spend our lives.” Annie Dillard   Periodically, through my life I have found myself restless and discontented to the point that I pay attention. I do this every few years – Reevaluate my life because I suddenly feel as if I am living by rote. […]

Grieving from a Distance

Dear Ones, By not booking an immediate flight home when Gen died, I have created my own vacuum here in Mexico. I love it that you are all there for me when I need to call. Just a familiar voice now and then fills that lonely spot a bit. And solitude is the purpose of […]

Being Me

“We already have everything we need. There is no need for self-improvement. All these trips that we lay on ourselves (…) never touch our basic wealth. They are like clouds that temporarily block the sun. But all the time our warmth and brilliance are right here. This is who we really are.” ― Pema Chödrön […]

A Pathway to Joy

One of my most rewarding friendships is with a woman who I seldom see. A phone call between us is rare. Once in awhile a Facebook “Like” or Post notifies the other that one of us is thinking of the other. Still, we are connected. I met her about eleven years ago on a trip […]