Grieving from a Distance

Dear Ones, By not booking an immediate flight home when Gen died, I have created my own vacuum here in Mexico. I love it that you are all there for me when I need to call. Just a familiar voice now and then fills that lonely spot a bit. And solitude is the purpose of […]

Being Who You Are

Periodically I read this letter and wonder who needs to hear encouraging words. This is a long one…but take only what YOU need. Dear Granddaughter, I have been thinking about who you are.   You are smart; you are beautiful; you are kind and generous (btw, no one is 100% on this);  you are clever and […]

A Generation Between

I wrote this many years ago…and it is still so true.   Dear Children, It comes down to the difference between parenting and grandparenting. Without blaming myself as a parent, I understand the difficulties of parenting: showing love versus giving guidance; giving direction without giving orders; teaching values without imposing ideology. When you were born […]

Being Me

“We already have everything we need. There is no need for self-improvement. All these trips that we lay on ourselves (…) never touch our basic wealth. They are like clouds that temporarily block the sun. But all the time our warmth and brilliance are right here. This is who we really are.” ― Pema Chödrön […]

A Pathway to Joy

One of my most rewarding friendships is with a woman who I seldom see. A phone call between us is rare. Once in awhile a Facebook “Like” or Post notifies the other that one of us is thinking of the other. Still, we are connected. I met her about eleven years ago on a trip […]

Giving Thanks Today

Thank you, dear friends, family and the Great Spirit.* Our last week has been a roller coaster. I have thought of much to write, written some, posted nothing. The first thing I will do is let you all know that we are grateful that our daughter is alive. Nine days ago she stepped off of […]

Travel Connections

I have difficulty writing when I can’t reach the Internet. After all, is it really happening if I can’t post it? Is it real if I can’t share it? Did I really live it if I can’t communicate it? Social media makes traveling alone a pleasure (or certainly tolerable). Whatever I see or do, I […]

I Like Beginnings

NOTE: This is my letter on New Year’s Day, 2012. Time to start adding to it, don’t you think? Dear Family. I’m not feeling sentimental.  I have no wise words for you on this momentous occasion of a new year in our lives.  I’m only grateful. So I’m starting a list for the year.  This […]

Joy for the Holidays

This post was Every Christmas is a composite, isn’t it? Each year it is added to, plumped out, and filled in with new visions to set to the music of carols in the background. It changes. It morphs. And for me it always reflects warmth and light. Life has a way of separating us. Miles […]

I’m All In

Love is not something we give or get; it is something that we nurture and grow. Brené Brown I spent many years in relationships while having one foot out of the door. Those were the times when I was saying I wanted to be a friend, a lover, a member of a group, and in […]