Another Giving Year

No one has ever become poor by giving. Anne Frank My Dear Children, Your excellence as parents is evident in many ways. In this season I am thankful that you have raised kind and responsible people. I brag about them a lot and have written before about my grandchildren’s philanthropic interests (here). Just a little […]

Gratitude – The Practice

Grat.i.tude ( a noun) The quality of being thankful; readiness to show appreciation for and to return kindness A feeling of appreciation and thankfulness for blessings or benefits we have received To recognize that the sources of goodness are outside of ourselves. An emotion expressing appreciation for what one has         Dear Children and Grandchildren, It […]

The Grandparent Thing

“There were no mirrors in my Nana’s house/no mirrors in my Nana’s house/So the beauty that I saw in everything/the beauty in everything/was in her eyes/like the rising of the sun. I only knew love and I never knew hate.” Ysaye M. Barnwell What was my model for grandparenting? Interesting question! Thinking back to when […]

I Love You

Dear Children and Grandchildren: I love you. And I wish i could always show it in the right way. I wish I knew how to say it better. Still, life is like that between parent and child. Flawed. Inexact. Fraught with emotions and angst. And filled with love and true caring. So I ask you […]

Winning…and Never Losing

I’ve never been a real athlete but I watch my share of sporting events. Other than March Madness, these events surely include someone I know and love. Moving as a spectator from track meets to lacrosse to baseball to football to crew to basketball to soccer to golf and back again gives me an opportunity […]

A Generation Between

I wrote this many years ago…and it is still so true.   Dear Children, It comes down to the difference between parenting and grandparenting. Without blaming myself as a parent, I understand the difficulties of parenting: showing love versus giving guidance; giving direction without giving orders; teaching values without imposing ideology. When you were born […]

Our Little Candle

One of my best Christmas decisions came, not from peace and goodwill toward men, but through frustration and fatigue. I have nine grandchildren whose needs (and many of their wants) are bountifully met. For many years Christmas buying was an obstacle course of avoiding the respective lists of Santa and their parents in order to […]

My Mother’s Birthday

Dear Children, Here it is – Mom’s birthday again. Will I ever get better at expressing my feelings about my mother?  I know that the longer I live, the more I understand both her and myself. Observing her difficulty in making connection is an object lesson in love. In the years when you were under […]

Kid-Spotting*

Years pass and disperse people. They pick them up and fling them to far corners. That may give too much responsibility to the years and not enough to individuals, but, still… I seem to spend as much time in cars and planes as I do in front of my own fireplace. I have the desire […]

…on Having a 21-Year-Old Granddaughter.

I first published this when my first Granddaughter turned 21 in 2009. Now three of my grandchildren have attained this magical age. Ah, how the time files. I am re-publishing this because I have so many requests for Letters to Grandchildren as they grow to adulthood. To my Granddaughter: Twenty-one years ago today my life […]