Happy Birthday, Dear Daughter

Dear Daughter, I remember your birth with great joy. I suppose those first steps in motherhood were halting, but I didn’t realize my own youth and ignorance. I lived in the euphoria of first love. Closing my eyes I can almost smell the softness of your baby skin. I can feel the wisps of hair […]

Women Paying it Forward

Last Sunday I went to a soulful gathering for my granddaughter. It was unusual because in our culture – lacking a Bat Mitzvah or a Quinceañera – there seems to be no tradition that formally launches a young woman. More importantly there is no occasion on which she is held in the circle of the […]

Gratitude and Joy

Maybe gratitude has nothing to do with joy.  Meredith Grey But I think it does. My son and I were discussing joy yesterday. How do we put joy in our life? How do we identify what gives us joy? One way, I think, is by presence in a moment of our lives and having gratitude […]

On the Day You Were Born

On the day you were born the round planet Earth turned toward your morning sky, whirling past darkness, spanning the night into light. On the Day you Were Born, Debra Frasier I can almost transport myself to that day…the anticipation, the pain, the joy, and the instant alarm that never completely obliterated the joy. In […]

…to My Daughter When I Die

NOTE.  This is one of a series of requested letters that will be posted under “Form Letters” for those of you who are looking for an idea or a template for a letter of your own. Dear Daughter, I’ve never considered myself immortal, but until my illness I hadn’t really thought of dying and leaving […]

Your Daughter’s Life

My Dear Friend, I called yesterday to do what friends do; to be available, to listen, to speak if necessary, and hopefully to comfort. You comforted me. You weren’t trying. You were being yourself. You were sharing. I am comforted to know that the two of you are holding each other up with the soothing […]

Precious Times

I love my children and I treasure one-on-one moments with them. When I have any one of my children alone, it is a gift.  It should be easier to accomplish, I suppose, but life takes over and time slips away.  And would I give up having family times and grandchildren gatherings?  No. And yet, the […]

Triple Blessing

I like to think of myself as flexible and spontaneous.  In reality, my days, although not structured, seem to be confined to what I “should” be doing.  I have proven to myself that I can move out of that box. A couple of weeks ago I did something that was totally spontaneous.  And totally delightful…like […]

What I’ve Left Behind

My husband will probably never understand why I travel. And especially why I put myself in tenuous situations and call it a break. I want to give him a shout-out. I meant to do this as I was leaving…but… In case you’ve noticed my absence, I’m in Mexico where the internet is unreliable at best. […]

Acceptance and Change

Dear Nephew, Thank you for sharing your insights with me.  I’m happy for you that you can take responsibility for those things in your life which you have done and still understand that much of what happens in our lives (especially our childhood) is without our input and outside of our control.  It’s very releasing […]