Independent Thoughts

There are so many connotations to independence. I live in a “free” country. I live in the West. Independence is a given. My parents instilled the family tradition by stowing their five kids in a car and moving from the midwest to Oregon when I was barely two years old. Maintaining independence has been a […]

Accepting My Role

“I am an elder. And I am delighted to be an elder.” Alice Walker to Tami Simon Acknowledging myself as an elder is like settling into a comfortable chair surrounded by my favorite books by my favorite authors and spiritual leaders with my laptop within reach and knowing that there is internet. I am at […]

A Sad Story

I can make up a story with the best of them. Give me a person to watch and I’ll give you a story. But why must my story be heartrending? I’m in a small village in Mexico this month. Coming back from the playa yesterday after my beach walk I neared an older man who […]

Parenting is Forever

I sometimes bring this letter forward from my archives because there seem to be a lot of people searching for letters to write to their own children.  Originally post March 29, 2011. Dear Child of Mine, Many of my thoughts of parenting represent hope for a better yesterday. I was inspired by watching Maya Angelou […]

Naming Names

My husband often repeats a family catch-phrase, “Call me anything but late for dinner”. I guess I can go with that. I am who I am no matter what I am called.  Although I have been touchy about some things. I don’t like people shortening my name to Lynn. My sister-in-law is the only one […]

Grace by Acceptance

 Stages, by Herman Hesse As every flower fades and as all youth Departs, so life at every stage, So every virtue, so our grasp of truth, Blooms in its day and may not last forever. Since life may summon us at every age Be ready, heart, for parting, new endeavor, Be ready bravely and without […]

A Recipe for Aging (or Reconciling the Age Account)

Aging and parenting create an interesting combination. It is an heirloom recipe that I must dig from past history and review from time to time until I can do it from memory. I’m grappling with the ingredients again since my daughter’s illness.* From the negative side it would be titled, “My Life in Redundancy“.  A […]

A Day Older

Yesterday marked the beginning of another decade, my 70th birthday.  I’m expected to feel old, if not older.  So how do I really feel about it? I feel the same. I’m grateful to have reached this age with my mind and body relatively intact. Although I see myself as young, I’m aware of how I […]

Am I there yet?

I will have arrived when I truly understand “casual elegance”. I’ve studied this iconic style for many years trying to prepare for aging in a graceful way.  Oh well, let’s face it: I studied it in my more social days and in my career days, too.  But now I’m truly aging and I haven’t gotten […]

Is it You…or is it Me?

I already know that if I am irritated with anyone for any behavior any time, I should look to myself for that behaviors worst exhibitions.  Why this is?  Do I feel as if my irritating behaviors have been infringed upon?  Co-opted? Improved upon? Don’t know. I just know it fills me with dread whenever I […]