It’s Always Love

I made a lot of vows when I was an adult child dealing with my aging mother. “When my kids are grown, I’ll never…” It’s interesting how things change and how things remain the same. When my mother was about my age she was living upstate near my sisters. I flew to see her fairly […]

Death and Tragedy

Death is a reality at our age. Not only are we facing it ourselves, but we lose friends and family regularly. Even though we are expecting it, it can be a shock, But I think of us as prepared. A niece has been close to death this week. Life supports were removed because of a […]

Together – We Are More!

“If you want to know yourself, look at your friends.” When I read this posit several years ago I began seeing my friends differently. After all, it’s a way to look outward for a little self-knowledge. When I look at my friends, what do I see of myself? Why are they my friends and I […]

Honesty and Aging

“Our entire life … consists ultimately in accepting ourselves as we are.”― Jean Anouih My friends and I are giving each other a gift that I wish we had known enough – and been brave enough – to give earlier. We are giving the gift of honesty. Because the older we get, the more we […]

Happy Birthday

                                    It’s my birthday today and I find that I have started many posts about the experience, but have finished (I’m not sure unless I look it up) few or none. So This is a composite of lots […]

December Thoughts

I generally don’t live in the past. I fast-forward and visualize the future. Even my precious memories are vague. I hear friends who can relay a moment-by-moment saga of their children’s lives and I feel a bit guilty. Sometimes I wonder if I was ever present in those moments. But I have moments of nostalgia. […]

Independent Thoughts

There are so many connotations to independence. I live in a “free” country. I live in the West. Independence is a given. My parents instilled the family tradition by stowing their five kids in a car and moving from the midwest to Oregon when I was barely two years old. Maintaining independence has been a […]

Accepting My Role

“I am an elder. And I am delighted to be an elder.” Alice Walker to Tami Simon Acknowledging myself as an elder is like settling into a comfortable chair surrounded by my favorite books by my favorite authors and spiritual leaders with my laptop within reach and knowing that there is internet. I am at […]

A Sad Story

I can make up a story with the best of them. Give me a person to watch and I’ll give you a story. But why must my story be heartrending? I’m in a small village in Mexico this month. Coming back from the playa yesterday after my beach walk I neared an older man who […]

Parenting is Forever

I sometimes bring this letter forward from my archives because there seem to be a lot of people searching for letters to write to their own children.  Originally post March 29, 2011. Dear Child of Mine, Many of my thoughts of parenting represent hope for a better yesterday. I was inspired by watching Maya Angelou […]